I can help your teenager and help you. As parents you can learn new tools for setting limits with your teenager. In turn, teens have the opportunity to show what level of responsibility and freedom they are ready for.
As a State Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist/Psychotherapist for the last 21 years I have provided Special Services For Teens And Parents. With the parents signing a Permission-To-Treat Release Form (and the teen and parents signing a Limits of Confidentiality Form) I have been able to provide a confidential safe place for teens to get professional help. In therapy, I can help your teenager and help you.
A place for parents as well
With that place for the teen established I also work with the parents alone (every few weeks after the initial consult). As parents, I will guide you on developmental needs of teens – what to expect – and how to manage at a higher level as single parents or as a parental team. The focus is often balancing the limit-setting with sponsorship of additional freedom. Creating effective and appropriate behavior management plans is a key component. These plans always need to be updated and fine-tuned.
An approach that helps teenagers
This kind of approach, balancing setting limits for your teenager with offering freedom and responsibility, has often proven crucial for many teens to overcome crises or bumps in the road to becoming adults.
It is normal that teens struggle to one degree or another as they try to get their bearings with their newly forming identity, newly forming hormonal and growth changes, and their need for separation and individuation. These needs can be either precocious or delayed. It can be quite helpful to you as parents to have a coach for how to balance setting limits firmly and also giving more responsibility as your teen incrementally grows.
I have the ability to bring the parents together with the teen by phone (if needed), to improve communication and mediate problems. I often coach the parental team (during parent-only consult calls) on how to have family meetings at home, and how to re-establish limits while increasing attunement and empathy. Parents often need coaching on how to find new ways to sponsor their teenager.
My experience includes working with teens and parents when there are learning differences such as ADD, NLD, or Autistic Spectrum Disorder issues, Executive Functioning Disorder(organization), anger management, relationship dependence, or Depression or Addiction issues. It is common that teens have difficulties with suicidal ideation, emotion regulation issues, relationship loss, coping with divorce, academic troubles, sexual identity confusion, isolation, sibling relationship problems, parent-teen bond issues and acting out of various kinds often in addition to bullying.
Sleep and Nutrition issues can be rebalanced without meds which often have side effects.
Your next step – reach out for help
The GOOD NEWS is that talking out feelings and thoughts (related to teen and parent goals) in an integrative way usually reduces acting out behavior. Exercise and certain martial arts can be used to acheive an anti-depressant effect.
Eric has Offices in Sacramento and Davis. Call now to arrange a consultation, or just fill out the contact form and click Send.Holistic Therapy Online -Eric Buck MFT
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